I have the unique perspective while I am teaching Pilates to see folks walking by outside entering and exciting the building. I see a parade of different bodies and different levels of fitness. I’ve noticed one of the gals who works in a office a few doors down often walks by getting her steps in. We say hi to each other when we meet in the bathroom or on the sidewalk. Yesterday as she walked by I noticed through the window she seemed to have really slimmed down.

Today as I was outside in front of my studio we passed each other and said hello. I mentioned she looked good and seemed to be leaning out before my eyes! She got a big grin on her face and said “Thank you - I’ve lost over 20 lbs. I appreciate you noticing!” I don’t really know this woman and it would have been easier for me to just to leave it at hello but her reaction to my sincere compliment felt good for both of us. I’m sure on some level that affirmation from a stranger of her hardwork to lose weight will help her keep working towards her goal.

How often do we think the compliment to ourselves and just not say it? How often do we notice a cute outfit or handbag, new hairstyle or a student’s progress in class and just keep that to ourselves. Our words have power and the ability to encourage, support and affirm someone else who just may be needing it.

I am reminded of a time several years ago when I was working in my studio in Nashville. I ran out for a quick Starbucks feeling rather frazzled and rough. As I exited Starbucks an older gentleman held the door for me and said ‘You are a beautiful breath of fresh air’ and then proceeded to walk into Starbucks. It changed my whole day. And the fact that I still remember that moment fondly and am sharing it with you speaks to the power of a sincere complement!

I also see this often in the studio when I notice a student’s progress or their fellow students comment on their results or work they have put in - there is always a smile! It feels good to be validated!

I encourage you to give the compliment! If you are thinking it - say it! I have yet to see a compliment backfire … and you may impact the recipient more than you will ever know!